Hello to every one

No, I really don't know how I would have managed if it had been my partner, not myself with the cancer. I am so very sorry for the situation you are in. How is your husband feeling physically at the moment? Can you let family and friends around you know how you feel, or do you feel that you have to pretend to be strong for the sake of everyone else? There is DEFINITELY nothing to blame yourself for. These things happen, sadly, and you mustn't add unjustifiable guilt to your cartload of worries. Have you been introduced to a Cancer MacMillan nurse (presuming you are in UK)? I think it would be good idea to see if you can speak to them, as they are very supportive, and can suggest all sorts of practical measures for coping. They also don't seem to mind you having a good cry!

I am so glad you have joined us here. I hope that you will be able to offload a bit of your worries and stresses here. Everyone is very friendly, and there is the Chat Room (just dive in and say Hi!) or you can "blog" your feelings for people to share. I'm sure it won't be long before another Carer enfolds you with some understanding and judicious advice, so I'll just wish you both all the best luck with the treatment. xxxx Penny

Thank you for your kind words.

My husband is currently fine physically. We have been walking and going out and we have been spending time with family and friends. I think you are quite right in that I feel I have to be strong. I have got a card for the Macmillan nurses and will ring them.

Thank you again xx