Help.

...you just don't realise that yet. None of us think we can cope and yet somehow we do, even if coping just means keeping count of the days going by! By November I'm sure you'll have had chance to get over the operation as I think it's that that is really making you feel so low - it's like chemo, which sometimes doesn't intefere with you much but other times knocks you out for several days.
I don't know much about scars except they can be lumpy, and remember breast care nurses are very used to talking to upset people; they will help you a lot if you let them. I would say give them a call and they will help you sort things out a bit.
Children are very resilient, particularly seven-year olds, they just accept life as it is, so I'm sure if he sees you most days for a cuddle, then that will be enough for now. Any chance your husband could take a day off compassionate leave or annual leave? Otherwise I'm sure the people helping with your son will feel honoured to be so needed - my friends are all wanting to help me, and I've let a few do that as they tell me it's a sign of strength, not weakness (I know, I don't find it easy either). So come on Sylvie, always remember that you're fantastic! With love, and solidarity,

hi Sylvie

had my lump out and lymph node biopsy 5 weeks ago and i felt just like you at this stage. Hang in there things do get better, the tenderness does start to subside and by keeping up the exercises i have full movement back now. I even went swimming the other day, so just move though goal posts a tiny bit each day and you will see light at the end of the tunnel.
My 7yr old loved being picked up from school for 2weeks by his grandparents and loved all the attention he was getting and treats[ i found out later he conned them out of an ice cream every day] They are so resiliant he has already forgotten all about it so please don't worry.
The little lump at the end of my scar was the end of the soluble stich.They will check on it at your follow up appointment.
Thinking of you.

Hi Sylvie, Looks like we're in a similar boat, i had my lump removed the day before yours and i've been in discomfort ever since too.

My district nurse was crap, she never bothered coming round. I phoned my BC nurse and have ended up going to see her at the hospital twice in the last four days. I was hugely worried that she would think i was wasting her time, but i just needed someone who knew what they were talking about to look at it and tell me everything was normal. It took a lot of courage to phone her the first time, but i'm so glad i did! If i were you i would ring out of hours, you then get to leave a message on the answerphone and then they will call you (which somehow didn't seem so bad)

I have a lump at both ends of the scar which apparently are where they put the needles in for the core biopsy. I also have a bigger lump under my armpit scar which i was told was a build up of hard tissue and my body will break it down in a month or so.

Don't feel a failure. My sister had cancer 4 years ago when my nephew was 9 months old. i looked after him for several months and it made me feel so much better as i knew i was helping. The people around you will feel so helpless that most offers of help are genuine so grab them with both hands. If you're not getting offers of help then ask for help. You don't have to be the one caring for your child to be a good mum.

You need to be selfish and think what you need, not in the future but today. Its the only way i'm coping!

Louise xx