Loss of hair and children

Hi Pudd,

Sorry to read that its all come back again. Your poor little girl, her emotions must be all over the place.
Even tho i am in good old cold blighty, I couldn't stand wigs so wore scarves and Muslim preyor caps. Although that may not be appropriate if you are in a muslim country. I put pretty beads and butterflies on it to make it look more acceptable. You can also get "fringes" to wear with a scarf. I think you can get them through Ameona life. They have a web site, it is a mag aimed at people going through bc.
Sorry I cant be anymore help. Just really wanted you to know we are reading your thread. If you get the chance come onto chat room one evening, one of the girls there may have some ideas. I'm happy to send you anything you cant get where you are.

Very best wishes and LOL

Debbie xx

hi pudd,i am sorry to read if your situation.when i was first diagnosed 2 years ago my daughter was 11 years old and took in as much information as she could but asked me not to go without my wig when i lose my hair.I thought this may be difficult but as the hair started to go gradually over a couple of weeks and she saw it daily it wasnt so bad for her and she coped with it.i think that she had visions of me going to bed one night then getting up next morning totally bald. i wore a wig or scarves when any of her friends came over,otherwise she was fine with it.Let her help you choose some pretty scarves for when you go out.If she is involved she will be more relaxed with it. all the best.

Thank you so much Debbie.

I am quite new in this web site, and don't really know how it works.

Any suggestions are a great help.

Pudd

Lesley,

Thank you. I am indeed going to try and wear pretty scarves and let her choose too.

Pudd

hi Pudd, i lost my hair last year and my then six year old was very upset and idint want to look at me with a bald head however with the support of her older sister she overcame her fear and had a look at me she was very upset at first but then she began to giggle at how funny i looked and after that she was fine and even told her friends that her mam had no hair and was very grown up about it. Children are very resilient and cope much better than we think they will. Take care. I did not wear a wig just scarves and my close friends and family saw me as i was every now and again.

Hi Pudd.

First of all I want to thank you, for seeing your post gave me the push I needed to sign up to the forum. I was diagnosed in February and started my Chemotherapy the following day. I didn't have time to get my own head around what was happening, let alone prepare the children. Grace is 9 and reacted in the exact way your daughter did, which upset me terribly. I was advised that my hair loss could be very sudden and I simply panicked. No matter what I said to Grace, I couldn't console her so I decided to get her involved. We set aside the Sunday evening following my second treatment and played hairdressers. I sat before the huge mirror in my bedroom, gave Grace a pair of scissors, digital camera and clippers, then braced myself. Just thinking of how I felt inside on that evening brings a tear to my eye but the effect it had on Grace was simply perfect. We went through the whole, 'Going anywhere nice on your holidays?' routine and she loved being able to chop to her heart's content, taking photos along the way, without worrying about the ultimate outcome. By the time she'd finished we'd had lots of laughs and were even impressed by a couple of the new styles she'd created along the way. I'll never get used to seeing myself without my blonde hair but Grace is more than happy to allow me to return to the school playground at home-time and I know she probably bored her friends silly telling them how she was allowed to 'really' cut Mum's hair.

I don't know how quickly your hair loss is likely to be, or even whether it's already gone, but I just know that your daughter will love her new look Mummy - even if she can't wait for your hair to grow back.

Best regards,

Christina

Hi Christina,

I have just read your lovely post. I can imagine what fun it must have been for your little girl to restyle mums hair. It bought a tear to my eye, but also made me laugh.
I hope all is going well with your treatment. you are probably over the half way mark by now.
Lots of love and best wishes to you and your family.

LOL

Debbie. xxx

Mine is falling out like crazy... I'm so ready to get my freaking hair back. I'm not sure this is normal w/ me because I'm seriously convinced I'm going to look like Homer Freaking Simpson by the end of this month if it keeps falling out the way it is.