My Dad may have myeloma/hypercalcemia

Hi - my stepdad went through exactly the same symptoms when diagnosed with myeloma in Dec 2005. it has been a long road with chemotherapy and a stem cell transplant but he is now in remission and doing well, keep strong and read and research as much as possible. we were lucky, he chose a trial drug and it worked but it was horrible and draining to watch him do through hell. also remember that the people close to him need support too - it has had a huge effect on my mum. good luck

hi, my name is jean, i am sorry to hear about your dad, my brother is 44 and last oct, 22nd, i went with him for a routine eye test and the result was devastating, he has a brain tumor radio therapy hasn`t been sucsessfull so he`s waiting on a date to start chemo, i got married in sept and my brother gave me away, he is my world we get on gr8, but when he went into hosp he was so posative about everything and never once felt sorry for his self. On visiting one day he wasn`t in the best of moods didn`t want to speak, bit short tempered, he wasn`t dehydrated, but it did turn out he had an undetected infection, got some antibiotics and in a few days he was back to his normal self. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don`t take your dads actions persoanlly as he must be going through a traumatic experience, just be yourself, have no expectations, i have adjusted to just dealing with whatever gets thrown at us, think posative and take each day as it comes, i hope your dad gets good news!! and best wishes to you and your family....jean

My dad was diagnosed with myeloma in march after spending christmas 07 in intensive care, dehydrated, double pneumonia, renal failure.My brother went to collect him for christmas on the 23rd. He pulled through and now after several doses of chemo is on the mend.

psychologically we went through hell, the not knowing is better at the time than knowing.. knowing how bad things could get, what each drug my dad was on and explaining to him everything he was going through. I asked him right from the start 'do u want the pretty picture or the facts?'

He opted for the facts!! My mother left him 3 days before he was found semi-conscious and my brother developed 'ostrich syndrome' so it was down to me to do the research. Being on here has kept me going...

My dad was never one for expressing his emotions until this. Now we get on like a house on fire and talk about all sorts everyday ( we live over 200 miles apart) when he gets scared he will phone me and ill have him laughing again. I sent him a load of information about stem cell transplants, responded by phoning me 'are u trying to scare me? haha'

I knew when my dad was first told he had the big 'c' he was scared. We took each day a bit at a time. Give your dad time to accept his fate and the fight he's going to have. Its a scarey time for all involved but at least he will know he wont have to face this alone...neither will anyone who comes on here.

Thankgod for forums like cancerbackup..

Love and wishes to u all
karen x