Need Help To Support My Mum
Posted on: Sat, 05/07/2008 - 19:16
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Need Help To Support My Mum
My dad was diagnosed with renal cancer in January with secondary (very small) tumours. One is in his brain and one is on his lung (they secondaries are shrinking thankfully). I just needed some advice.
Mum and I take it in turns to care for my dad. She works in the day and I look after dad and I work in the evening while she looks after dad. Anyway, I feel my mum is carrying a lot of the strain. I want to take her out, even to see a movie while my brothers care for dad but she is reluctant to go. I just want to give her as much time to herself as possible but naturally and understandably she chooses not to leave Dad even for a few hours.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I really want to get her out of the house just for a few hours to relax and not forget but to take her mind off it for a little while. I know my dad wouldn't mind, he often sent her home when he was in hospital because she was exhausted. Anyone have any ideas on how I can persuade her that it would be okay to leave dad for a few hours in the care of my brother while we go out shopping and have lunch?
i think this is one of the situations where you just need to let mum do what she thinks is best, all you can do really is to support her as much as you can, i think it is so good that your mum and dad have such a lovely caring daughter
lots of love
Alisonxxx
i am not positive, i am realistic
Oh sure, I know it's best to let her deal with things. But I guess we are going to have a very bumpy road in front of us and I want her to be strong for those times so that is why I try to get her out and about for a little while. But they have been married not short of forty years so it's natural that she will want to be with him but she isn't well herself. She has coeliac disease and early onset arthritis. She needs to look after herself as well.But I can't force her to do anything so it's down for her but my concern cuts both ways for both mum and dad.