poppyanne 22
Posted on: Sat, 11/10/2008 - 07:16
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poppyanne 22
Its all such a nightmare at the moment.Paul my husband has been dianosed with lung cancer that has spread to his spine.He's had a biopsy and waiting for those results plus starting Radio therapy on his spine week Monday. It just seems a long and scarey road we are going to take. Any help would be great. Plus to add to my misery my poor Dad has been dianosed with terminal bladder cancer . My world is around my ears at the moment and I need to get back up there and fight eh ?
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sue
You are facing insurmountable odds here, surrounded by dreadful things looming on all sides. Firstly I want to wish you and Paul the best possible results with the biopsy. I hope the radiotherapy will start pummelling this thing. We have found that it is a good idea to keep a notepad and jot down any questions that occur so that you can remember to ask the staff at the next appointment.
Is your Dad living alone? How far away does he live from you? Do you have siblings to share the support for him? I don't know what practical support has already been offered to your Dad. Has he had offers of his accommodation being altered to help, eg with bathing? Does he have a Community Nurse and a Cancer MacMillan nurse arranged (the latter do not do hands-on nursing but can give emotional support ,and advise about finances, eg. DSS forms with special measures for terminal sufferers.)
I hope that you yourself manage to get enough support. I am sure that you will find that What Now does help. There is always someone about to listen, chuck in some personal experience, or try to suggest something. The Chat Room may even manage to take your mind off these horrendous problems for a while, just talking to other people who understand what you are going through. So, for the moment, ((((((hugs)))))) xxxxx Penny
Penny
Thanks Penny. I have certainly found it helpful to come on here. Its great to talk to those who knows what we are going through.Paul starts his radiotherapy Thursday for 5 days. So at least it is happening now thank god.The biggest worry is that the cancer will get into Pauls spinal column so starting treatment hopefully will stop that then after that he will have chemo. So a long road ahead. Its like we are stepping into the unknown so any help from you guys would be great. We are trying to stay positive but its hard when your scared !!
I have a brother but he doesn't do a lot !! I've got the wheels in motion for all the above you mentioned. for Dad I want to get him as happy and pain free as I can make it for him. I love him to bits .We have had a magical relationship which will stay between us forever.
Good idea about the note book I will do that.
Thanks for being here means a lot
Hope you are ok
Love Sue xxxx
sue